Have you ever become incredibly stressed and anxious after receiving negative feedback? Have you spent more time worrying than actually addressing the corrective actions you might take in light of the criticism? David Rock and Chris Weller have written a useful article for Fast Company about coping with negative feedback. They offer some helpful tips. Rock and Weller argue that your brain moves into a "threat state" when you receive negative feedback, and that mental state prevents you from moving forward constructively. They write:
The stress we feel during and after a negative feedback conversation is a form of a threat state—in particular, a threat to our sense of status. The brain senses danger, so it shuts down precious cognitive resources and diverts energy toward worrying about our standing and reputation. Cognition and threat, therefore, work as a kind of seesaw. As one is high, the other necessarily is low.
Rock and Weller argue that you may need a quick break (a walk is helpful) to calm down if you are feeling extremely anxious. Then, you should assess the situation and engaging in practices they call labeling and reappraisal. Labeling entails naming the emotions that one is experiencing and that might be getting in the way of thoughtfully considering how to improve based on the input one has received. Then, they encourage people to "reframe part or all of the negative situation in a more positive light. For instance, if you’re given feedback that you don’t speak up enough in meetings, instead of feeling embarrassed or dejected, can you reappraise the situation as a positive in that your manager respects your opinions?"
Having reappraised the criticism, individuals can examine why their performance led to the negative feedback. Perhaps some obstacles have gotten in the way of doing good work. Or, perhaps you became sidetracked and fell into some bad habits. To develop a corrective action plan, individuals should imagine what improvement looks like. What will success look like? How will they behave in the future if they have addressed these concerns? What changes will they have made to their work habits? How will others perceive them if they have undertaken a set of corrective actions? Imagining a better, more productive self can help one move past the negative emotions that crowd out learning and self-improvement in the face of unexpected negative feedback.