1. State your position firmly
2. Assert your supporting data and arguments
3. Close the deal
Most people put on the hard sell, backed by passion, persistence, and data. However, Conger argues that such an approach may not be appropriate in all circumstances. He explains that leaders sometimes need to approach persuasion as a learning and negotiation process. They must start by establishing their own credibility. Then, they must determine and explain the benefits for the other party of whatever course of action has been proposed. They must provide evidence to support that assertion of mutual benefits, but they also must connect emotionally with the people they are trying to persuade. This alternative approach focuses on trying to understand the other side's point of view, to step into their shoes, so as to learn how and why they are willing or unwilling to support your position. Persuasion occurs through giving them a sense of ownership in the solution that has been developed.