Indecisive? Do You Know The Right Thing to Do, Yet Still Hesitate?

Source: Michigan Daily

Have you ever found yourself "doom scrolling" on Netflix while your friend or spouse implores you to simply, "Pick something already!"  Many of us have experienced this type of indecision.  We are overwhelmed by choice in those cases.  In other situations, we encounter equally good, or equally poor, courses of action, and we can't decide amongst these roughly comparable options. 

In my research, I've found another form of indecision that occurs frequently.    Indecisiveness does not always stem from an inability to determine the best course of action.  Instead, in some cases, individuals know precisely what to do, but they resist moving forward anyway? Why?  They know that the implementation of this course of action will be quite bumpy.  There will be challenging pitfalls to avoid and obstacles to overcome.   They know it will be painful at times.  They aren't quite certain how to tackle these challenges.  Thus, they resist making a decision at all.   They delay the choice, even though they know it is the right thing to do.  Perhaps you can relate...

What can we do in these situations?  First, we can identify precisely what skills, resources, and talent will be needed to address these implementation challenges.  We have to identify the gaps in our own expertise and identify the people to complement us and provide the know-how to execute our planned course of action successfully.  Second, we can reflect on those past situations we have encountered in which implementations have not gone as planned.  We should consider what strategies have worked for us in the past.  How have we overcome obstacles, pivoted effectively, and iterated when initial plans faltered. Reflecting on lessons learned from those circumstances will help us become more decisive in this moment. Third, we can imagine what success will look like.  Many people have heard of the pre-mortem method.  That's when we imagine what failure will look like, and then identify what is likely to cause that poor outcome.  The pre-mortem can be very helpful when we face a risky decision.  However, if we are indecisive, sometimes the pre-parade can help us move forward.  In that method, we imagine what a great success would look like, and we identify what will be the key drivers of that success.  Then we can start working on putting those conditions in place to insure success.